Everybody wants it but not nearly as many people want to be the first to give it. Isn’t it the root of all arguments? The staple of all companies? The reason friendships and relationships end? Respect is a universally understood value but not universally given. There are some people that believe respect is a two way street in which both cars should be traveling at the same speed. Then there are people that believe they drive Ferrari’s and should not abide by speeds even resembling their neighbors’. (Meaning they do not believe respect is mutual give and take). The biggest error in the comprehension of respect is when people assume it is just given. People want to receive it but are always hesitant to give it. Remind you of anything? Money.
Funny the way that everything in life comes full circle; everybody wants money right? The more money you have, the more respect you attain. Even if somebody does not agree with what you think or feel or say or do, if you have a significantly greater amount of money than them in your bank account chances are they are definitely going to respect you. Think of homeless people on the street- do they usually get respected? The unfortunate reality is that they don’t. But if that was a business man on the ground texting on his iPhone and you accidently tripped over him you would probably be more likely to apologize to him as opposed to if you tripped over the scruffy looking dude that looked like he brushed his hair with a sneaker.
What was one of the main lessons we were taught as young adults? First impressions are everything. The last thing anybody wanted was to be looked at foolishly upon first glance. Because if people do not think you are a respectable individual, that will completely change their response and their mannerisms with you. The absolute last thing you want is to be seen as somebody that does not deserve respect. As you grow into an adult and begin to realize that it is not about what you know but who you know, your projection of self image will drastically change. Your decisions that seemed concrete at 16 to do whatever you wanted and to “express yourself” however you saw fit become significantly less realistic.
Be sure to put the same type of energy & emotion into the universe that you want to receive. If you want to be respected, respect others. If you want to be appreciated, be sure to appreciate others.
life will always come full circle-no matter what.
Photos by Andrew Kovalev.